Our editorial photographer Roald Blunt did a whole shoot of Devin (Follow Devin on IG) in our #surgery issue. Most of course didn’t get put into the magazine so we are showcasing more from shoot right here for you! You can read Devin’s story about his top surgery in the latest issue right here!
Our latest issue is out and our cover boy Jack London took a lot of photos for our magazine that we couldnt put in it. Even some to show off his bottom surgery. Due to nudity we didnt feature in the magazine and they will be censored here. Click on the photos to see the uncensored. You have been warned! Click here to read the full magazine with Jack’s story inside.
Photos below are g rated from the shoot! Enjoy:
Local libraries are doing a decent job of housing all types of publications for folks to peruse at their leisure but for an atmosphere of community I’d be hard pressed to find a better collection of literature than at my local LGBTQ community center. The Center here in Las Vegas has a specialized collection of literature for and by LGBTQI+ authors and a few days ago I found myself walking along the shelves looking for something to read.
Several covers later, one caught my eye because of its unusual title: Finding the Boyfriend Within—A Practical Guide for Tapping into Your Own Source of Love, Happiness, and Respect by Brad Gooch. Written in the late 1990s, the book served as an answer to gay cis men’s seemingly restless and unsatisfying search for the perfect boyfriend. Using the age-old advice that loving another requires loving oneself first, Gooch paints a detailed picture of what self-care looks like and how it thinks, as well as the tools to give you a better life of your own creation.
I can relate directly to this book, being gay myself, but his advice and perspective is universal. Just insert “girlfriend” or some other title in its place and you’ll see what I mean. Despite how hokey this title may seem to those who aren’t as in touch with their emotions, Finding the Boyfriend Within has plenty of insights that are worth reflecting on no matter who you are and whether you decide to use his many awareness exercises. Continue reading “You Are Not Who You Date: Self-Reliance and the Single Life” »
I was having an interesting conversation with some folks the other day, and it was suggested that those of us in the trans community should always remind people that we want a seat at the table when it comes to discussions with community leaders, or speaking at events. I’m not so sure i’m on the same page as them, so I thought i’d write this blog to discuss it, and possibly help me think the process through.
I’ve been an activist for over ten years, having dealt with nationwide leaders, local political officials, and other movers and shakers in the lgbt and non lgbt community. I’ve always made my voice perfectly clear, and at times had to demand people listen to how certain things affect or don’t affect the trans and gnc communities.
So, here’s where I’m kind of stuck. I’m not sure that having to remind people that Trans and Gender nonconforming people exist and want their voices heard should have to be a constant thing. There are decisions made everyday that affect the lives of those under the trans umbrella, and our opinions are never asked.
When we stand up and talk about what effects us, we’re told to quit victimizing ourselves…to do something about it…to affect change if we don’t like something. My question is this: do gay men and lesbians have to remind people they want their voices heard? Are we as a trans community ever going to have to stop being loud and crystal clear as to what our needs are?
There was an event recently where there was no trans representation from my local community, and when it was asked why there was no one trans to speak at this event, the answer was, “We didn’t think about it. No one from the trans community called and said they wanted to speak.” Why should we have to?
It says to me, very poignantly, that we always have to remind people to ask us to share our voices and our opinions. LBG organizations have often taken money and donations from non trans friendly organizations, and when this is pointed out, the answer is “Oh, I didn’t know.”
So now on top of having to constantly remind people to have trans and gnc folks actively participate in community discussions, we now have to remind them to ask places and people they take money from whether or not they’re trans friendly? I say no.
I say they have the responsibility to automatically ask how the business or person they’re taking money from affects change and actively supports the trans and gnc communities. I’m not talking about simply hanging the “T” at the end of the acronym and calling themselves inclusive.
According to a February 2015 publication called TransInformational Impact done by the Funders For LGBTQ Issues, the trans community receives .015 percent of foundation funding, which equals about a penny for every hundred dollars awarded.
We need more pennies obviously, but we also need for them to include us without having to constantly remind them that we even exist. We need to have a seat at the table when decisions are made for and about the trans and gnc communities. When we do ask to speak up for ourselves, we don’t need to be told that not everything is about the trans community, or that we’re being aggressive and demanding too much.
The opportunity to have our voices heard loud and clear is not too demanding; it is being equal. It is our equal right not to be “forgotten about” when LGB(T) organizations receive funds from sources that don’t include the diverse trans community. This type of trans exclusion is not ok, and it needs to be called out.
Accountability without compassion is an act of violence. And so is forgetting about or excluding the trans community. We shouldn’t have to be constantly begging to be included and actively involved in processes and discussions that impact our lives. We can and will always speak for ourselves, whether or not our voices are wanted or heard. That’s one thing that will never change.
Tygh was a natural pick for our cover model for the DILF issue. In fact, he’s the reason the whole issue exists. We picked him before we picked the topic! Magazines may come and go–some before they even begin–but Tygh will long stand as role model and trans father figure for many FTMs. He is always putting out new videos, photos, and blogs (for our site now, too!)–he’s his own media institution, himself! When he signed at our table at the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference, tons of guys were coming up to meet him! But transitioning later in life has also come with a toll: a harsh rejection by his former social network. Read more about his transition from motherhood to fatherhood in our second issue!
Giovanni has two daughters, and he opens up about how transitioning has changed their relationships publicly and privately. He humbly reminds us not to underestimate how open children can be to a parent’s transition–e.g. they are not losing a mother, they are gaining a happier father. Check out his interview and pictures with his family in our DILF issue.
Mykel is Superman to his daughter, and that’s why he’s on it “24/7/365.” And she is, obviously, his queen: “It’s her world. I’m just living in it.” Read the advice he’s got for guys with kids who are considering transitioning in Issue 2.
Derek transitioned about three years after giving birth to his son. And it only took his son about 20 minutes to start calling him Daddy. Find out how Derek has made his son part of his journey in our latest issue!
Lucky you, we’ve got a bonus DILF for the blog only, FTM porn star, Matty Boi. Not only is he a sexy he’s rt throb, he’s also a daddy. And he just might be that other kind of Daddy too, but you’d have to check out his YouTube video with Ryan Cassata on BDSM to find out for sure! But we do know his favorite part of being a father:
“Do I really have to pick one?! That list is endless.
I absolutely love watching her express herself as her own person. Seeing her find passion in things and ALWAYS blowing me away with her talents and intelligence is an irreplaceable experience. (She is an incredible writer, watch out world!) Also, it’s amazing to look at your kid doing simple or huge things like school projects, moving up a grade, falling in love for the first time, or telling you about their plans for the future and go, ‘Holy shit, I helped that person become their own person.’ And let me tell you, she is an awesome person. I’m honored that I’ve been able to be a part of her life. She’s my heart and soul. I guess ultimately, she is my favorite part of being a dad. My favorite part is that I’m her dad.”
Happy Father’s Day!
Am I trans enough?
That’s a loaded question, so let me start by defining Transgender.
Transgender is an umbrella term that includes all people whose authentic identity does not conform to typical stereotypes of male or female genders. However, some parts of the trans community define transgender as having transitioned in some way. Unfortunately the language that is often used by the community is exclusionary. Some people feel it is acceptable to question the authenticity of trans people, and imply that you are only transgender if you present a certain way, take hormones, and get certain surgeries. As if there is only one way to be transgender!
Transgender is simply a label, but emphasizing labels is divisive rather than inclusive. Labels, I hate them. Not everyone feels the need to transition completely or partially, and some do not chose to transition at all.There should not be specific criteria associated with identifying as transgender.
I have to think about labels regarding my gender. I don’t know what box to check because I’m a little bit of this and I’m a little bit of that. Labels are pointless. I hate them. Many of us don’t fit into neat boxes. We aren’t one particular gender and we don’t neatly fit under the familiar umbrella.
There are so many labels, but still none seem to really fit. Labels work really well for inanimate objects that don’t have the ability to adapt and change. But, when it comes to me and my life, labels fall short. Labels are wrong. I hate them. I’m not a woman, I’m not a man, I’m not a this or a that. I’m not a who, a which or a what. I am me and I am trans enough.
Transgender should be a label of self-identification, and there is no right or wrong way to be trans. Therefore we are all trans enough.
This Blog in particular is dedicated to us transguys. We are often the invisible, more silent, yet still harmed component of the transgender and gnc communities. When I heard about the death of Amos this past memorial day weekend, it got me thinking about the issues transmen face that aren’t often talked about. Everyone in the trans community faces much higher instances of discrimination in housing and work, we face stigmas that no one should ever have to face.
Transmen often blend into stealth lives and on with life we go. Homelessness is always to quick to rear its ugly head, which then puts us in unpredictable situations. I myself have struggled with being homeless more than once. Its not because I couldn’t get a job, I had one. I simply couldn’t work enough to live in a state that afforded me almost every protection and safety that could be offered to a trans identified individual. I had amazing health insurance, and protection from discrimination, and even the knowledge that I couldn’t be disrespected after I passed away and buried under my birth name in a dress thanks to Toni Atkins and the dignity after death bill she helped pass.
However, homelessness is one issue that isn’t being dealt with quick enough to stop transwomen and transmen from being sex workers to support themselves. No one should have to sell their body in order to have a roof over their head and eat, yet some do it everyday as a form of survival. Amos was homeless for reasons unknown to me, but what is known to me is that he struggled just as bad if not worse than all us us do, and being trans and homeless took his life. The disparity that regular society needs to recognize is prevalent now more than ever, and we are standing smack dab in the middle of our own civil rights movement, the right to exist.
Since I am just starting out as a Blogger, I thought that title would be great.
Struggles of waking up in the morning, not feeling just right. Tough to sleep because your thoughts keep you up all night. I know the feeling. It’s tough out there. But I have learned with Healthy Living, life is much more livable.
Eating healthy foods can keep your body full of nutrients. When we eat bad meals and when we are not fueling our bodies we can get chronic illness. Cholesterol levels are very important to those looking to start or already on Testosterone. If we are not eating healthy our cholesterol levels could be off and it could affect us from getting prescribed Testosterone. Also, eating healthy can help with chemical imbalances. Cutting out sugar is a good way to start maximizing your life. Last THING Drink MORE water. When you think you have drunk enough, DRINK MORE. Being Dehydrated is not fun.
Next, Exercise is for more for than just losing weight and getting muscular. It is also a stress reliever and mood enhancer. I have not had top surgery yet, so I get dysphoric at times because of my chest. I have to take the focus off the fat pockets on my chest somehow so I workout. I set realistic goals and try my best to do them. If I don’t complete those, I still did my best and start again the next day… just never give up. This can help us feel good about ourselves and that is the most important thing.
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How you doin? My name is Jionni and I hope you read a little about my story and who I am in the Mangina Monologues section of the magazine. I have dealt with many different issues regarding discrimination, divorced parents, physical and emotional abuse, death of parent, drug addiction, unhealthy and healthy relationships, depression, anxiety, trauma, coming out as a lesbian, coming out as a transgender man, etc. There is pretty much nothing that I cannot relate to or understand. I am taking this opportunity to share my life experiences with you all by giving you the best advice I can and always keeping it real.
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Before Barack Obama had a Mitt Romney, or George W. Bush had an Al Gore, or even a Bill Clinton had a Bob Dole, presidential candidates on both sides of the aisle had to win their party’s nomination in a series of state-by-state primaries and caucuses.
The presidential primary season is a time when the media shamelessly speculates about what will happen in states that no one usually cares about–like Iowa, New Hampshire, and Nevada–because they hold their contests first. My home state of South Carolina has even steadily crept forward into the action, now holding their Republican primary 4th and their Democratic primary 6th in the country. And despite being a solid Republican state, in 2008, South Carolina’s Democratic primary was incredibly crucial for Obama’s grabbing the party nomination that year.
But remember 2007? We were all buzzing about how Hillary Clinton was a shoe in for President. The subtext of every political Saturday Night Live sketch that fall was, why even have a primary? But then on February 2, 2008, just as the primaries began, Will.IAM released the “Yes, We Can” Obama song on Youtube. And we all went from feeling warm and fuzzy about voting for the first female president, to feeling even warmer and even fuzzier about voting for the first African American president.
Point being, primaries are huge, even if you live in a state that might not seem important in the grand scheme of things. It was in South Carolina that Obama finally toppled Hillary, who had been beating him up to that point, and his campaign went on to dominate the rest of the primaries, and clenched the nomination.
What’s especially exciting about this year’s race is that the candidates are actually taking a stand on transgender issues! So even if you already feel comatose from all the presidential primary coverage, that’s reason enough to wake up! Now that you’re up, please dive into this “Transgentlemen’s Guide to Voting: Part II.”
1. Hillary “Loves Us So Much” Clinton
Last summer transgender rights activist Jennicet Gutierrez ‘interrupted’ President Obama at the White House, drawing attention to the transgender women being detained in men’s jails. Before that, in May 2015, Hillary Clinton, while in Nevada, said she would review the policies that put transgender women at risk for assault. She went on to say, “I think we have to do more to provide safe environments for vulnerable populations. I don’t think we should, you know, put children and vulnerable people into big detention facilities because I think they are at risk. I think their physical and mental health are at risk.”
And as Secretary of State, Clinton made it possible for transgender Americans to update their passport gender markers. As she told Terry Gross on Fresh Air in June of 2014, “It was part of the overall efforts to try to treat people with dignity and equality. And certainly the Obama Administration made some of its own moves at the same time with respect to the larger federal employee pool. And when I had the responsibility for the well-being of the 70,000 people or so employees around the world who worked for the State Department and USAID, I had the opportunity through executive action to recognize that there were barriers and vestiges to discrimination that had no place in a modern American workplace, and so I acted.”
Not only does Hillary share the same initials of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), she and Joe Biden both have recently pandered to the group at their annual gala dinner. Funny enough, this pandering now involves supporting transgender rights to serve openly in the military. She explained, “Meanwhile, you know, transgender people are still barred from serving. That is an outdated rule, especially since you and I know that there are transgender people in uniform, right now, they’re just keeping this core part of their identities under wraps, because they are so committed to defending our nation. They shouldn’t have to do that. T hat’s why I support the policy review that Defense Secretary Carter recently announced at the Pentagon. And it’s why I hope the United States joins many other countries that let transgender people serve openly. Now, we pride ourselves on having the world’s best military, but being the best doesn’t just mean having the best-trained forces or the biggest arsenal. It also means being on a leader on issues like this; on who we respect enough to let serve with dignity as themselves.”
At the same HRC event, Clinton also spoke out about the violence against transgender people, particularly trans women of color. She said, “We’ve got to address the crisis of transphobic violence. 2015 has seen the murder of at least 19 transgender women, primarily women of color. And nobody knows how much violence goes unreported or ignored. And we need to say, with one voice, that transgender people are valued, they are loved, they are us, they desire to be treated fairly and equally.”
Not to be out down by Bernie Sanders when it comes to social media, Clinton also took to Twitter to support an LGBT non-discrimination ordinance in Houston, “the bathroom bill,” writing, “No one should face discrimination for who they are or who they love–I support efforts for equality in Houston & beyond. #HERO #YesOnProp1 -H” on Ocboter 29, 2015. So, if you’re not already, follow Clinton on twitter so you can at least tweet “H” that you voted for her in your state’s primary.
2. Bernie “Equal Rights” Sanders
Bernie Sanders is a candidate who has openly supported LGBT rights for the long haul. Sanders voted against the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act as a member of the U.S. House. His home state of Vermont was the first to legalize same-sex unions (2000) and gay marriage (2009) through legislative action. In 2011, he endorsed same-sex marriage ahead of the 2012 election, becoming the highest official at the time to support the issue, and even encouraged Obama to do the same. He’s also cosponsoring a bill that repeal what’s left of the Defense of Marriage Act.
In 2013, Sanders supported the Employment Non-Discrimination Act when it passed the Senate. Currently, he’s cosponsoring the federal LGBT-inclusive Student Non-Discrimination Act. According to Sanders, “All I can say is I think I have one of the strongest, if not the strongest record, in the United States Congress on LGBT issues,” in a May 2015, interview with the Washington Blade. He went on to say, “My record speaks for itself, and I will compare it to any candidate who is out there. I spent 25 years fighting for equal rights. What makes it a good idea that black people can drink water at a fountain? We are trying to create a non-discriminatory society where we judge people based on their character, on their abilities, not on the color of their skin, their sexual orientation, their gender. Clearly, as a nation we’ve made good progress; we have a lot further to go.”
Bernie has also openly supports transgender rights. Dawn Ennis from the Advocate reported on October 1, 2015, “A single tweet from the senator’s campaign reflects the biggest effort by any candidate to appeal to transgender voters and allies.” And that tweet, sent out on September 28, 2015, stated, “In many states, it is legal to deny someone housing fro being transgender. That is wrong and must end.” Therefore, the Senator supports amending the Civil Rights Act and Fair Housing Act to include sexual orientation and gender identity.
Finally, Bernie has spoken out about the ongoing crisis of violence against trans women. He suggested in the Washington Blade one of best ways to address the high rates of violence against transgender women, especially transgender women of color, is by re-educating police officers. He compared the way police treated cases of domestic violence in the 1980s to how police treat cases of violence against transgender people now. He explained, “The point is we need to make sure that police departments are sensitive to the fact that every person in this country–man, woman, transgender, whatever you may be–is entitled to equal protection under the law, and abusing people is not acceptable.”
3. Donald “The Douche” Trump
Donald Trump has avoided making any political statements about transgender rights, and he has even asked Caitlyn Jenner to judge his Miss USA pageant! However, in 2012, Jenna Talackova was banned from competing in Miss Universe Canada Pageant when the organization found out she was transgender. But they reversed their decision after Gloria Allred took her on as a client. In his 20/20 interview with Barbara Walters, Trump recalled, “I looked at her name, and somebody brought this up to me: ‘Jennatal.’ Those are the first letters of her name. And it’s ‘genital.’ And I’m saying to myself, ‘Hmm, that’s strange, could there be an ulterior motive?’”
4. John “Let Them Eat Cake” Kasich
In 2011, as Governor of Ohio, John Kasich let his predecessor’s executive order protecting employees from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity, only to sign a new executive order adding sexual orientation back to a list of protected classes for state employees, but leaving out private LGB employees, as well as transgender workers altogether. According to his campaign, “We extended those protections in the way we thought most appropriate,” and they didn’t feel a need to protect all LGBT Ohioans from being fired, evicted, or denied service because of their gender identity and/or sexual orientation. Kasich told the Columbus Dispatch in April 2015, “I think we’re doing fine in Ohio. Everybody’s opinion has to be respected in all of this and we have to strike a balance. I think we have a good balance in Ohio and I don’t see a reason to do any more.’
5. Ted Cruz”-ing for a Bruising”
In October 2015, at a campaign stop in Sac City, Iowa, Ted Cruz said, “I think military policy should follow what is necessary for good order and discipline, that we shouldn’t view the military as a cauldron for social experiments.” He suggested the Obama administration is “trying to pursue sexual identity politics” by lifting the transgender ban in the military. Then, he asked, “How about having a military focusing on hunting down and killing bad guys. I think that should be the focus of the military instead of treating it as this, like, crucible for social justice innovations. We’ve lost sight of what their job is, and that’s what we need to get back to.”
Marco “Bathroom Pass” Rubio
In a December 2015 interview with the Christian Broadcasting Network, Marco Rubio promised to reverse Obama’s executive actions protecting LGBT people “on things like gender equality in restrooms.” He was speaking about the action Obama signed in July of that year, prohibiting federal contractors from discriminating against LGBT people, forcing them to allow transgender people to use the bathrooms matching their gender identity.
7. Ben “Prison Makes You Gay” Carson
During town hall hosted by Concerned Veterans for America in Waterloo, Iowa, in December 2015, he said he would prefer to bar transgender people from serving openly. In fact, he liked the idea of the “don’t ask don’t tell” policy that barred gays and lesbians from serving openly. He explained, “I do not appreciate using our military as a laboratory for social experimentation. We have too many important things to do when our men and women are out there fighting the enemy. The last thing that we need to be doing is saying what would it be like if we introduced several transgender people into the platoon. Give me a break. Deal with the transgender thing somewhere else. I liked the old ‘Don’t Ask Don’t Tell’ philosophy. Why do you have to go around flaunting your sexuality? It’s not necessary. You don’t need to talk about that. We need to talk about how we eliminate the enemy.”
In November 2015, when Jorge Ramos from Fusion asked Carson about transgender accommodations, he suggested that trans people have their own restrooms. He argued, “It’s not fair for them to make everyone else uncomfortable. It’s one of the things that I don’t particularly like about the movement. I think everybody has equal rights, but I’m not sure that anybody should have extra rights–extra rights when it comes to redefining everything for everybody else and imposing your view on everybody else. The way that this country was designed, it was ‘live and let live,’ and that’s the way I feel.”