Local libraries are doing a decent job of housing all types of publications for folks to peruse at their leisure but for an atmosphere of community I’d be hard pressed to find a better collection of literature than at my local LGBTQ community center. The Center here in Las Vegas has a specialized collection of literature for and by LGBTQI+ authors and a few days ago I found myself walking along the shelves looking for something to read.
Several covers later, one caught my eye because of its unusual title: Finding the Boyfriend Within—A Practical Guide for Tapping into Your Own Source of Love, Happiness, and Respect by Brad Gooch. Written in the late 1990s, the book served as an answer to gay cis men’s seemingly restless and unsatisfying search for the perfect boyfriend. Using the age-old advice that loving another requires loving oneself first, Gooch paints a detailed picture of what self-care looks like and how it thinks, as well as the tools to give you a better life of your own creation.
I can relate directly to this book, being gay myself, but his advice and perspective is universal. Just insert “girlfriend” or some other title in its place and you’ll see what I mean. Despite how hokey this title may seem to those who aren’t as in touch with their emotions, Finding the Boyfriend Within has plenty of insights that are worth reflecting on no matter who you are and whether you decide to use his many awareness exercises. Continue reading “You Are Not Who You Date: Self-Reliance and the Single Life” »
Since it is Valentine’s Day, we wanted to feature a few couples for you to enjoy on this special day. We have compiled our five favorite couples (featuring at least one trans partner). We are working on our June issue called Trans Love that will feature all trans couples (ftm/mtf and ftm/ftm), but in the meantime enjoy our five couples on this fun and wonderful holiday to show love.
1. D’Jamel and Leiomy
“The purpose of partnership is to fill your heart with love, learn from love and its experiences, and to build off that promising foundation. Loving u more everyday.” -D’Jamel
Leiomy Maldonado and D’Jamel Young, aka Bonnie and Clyde, aka Wonder Woman and Batman (according to D’Jamel’s Instagram), take our breath away with this hot, almost-but-just-not, lip lock. D’Jamel is featured in our “11 Rising Black Trans Male Stars” list for his work as an actor, producer, and entrepreneur. Leiomy is an international vogue teacher and choreographer. To keep up with the latest on this #powercouple, follow them on Instagram, @boss_man_transl8tion and @wond3rwoman1.
2. Giovanni and Jenna
“You are my best friend, my shoulder to lean on, the one person I know I can count on, you’re the love of my life, you’re my one and only, you’re my everything.” -Giovanni
Giovanni and Jenna are the proud parents of two daughters, who Jenna calls her princesses. I’m pretty sure Giovanni does too. The love these two parents have for each other and their children radiates off the screen. We hope to meet this #powercouple at this year’s Trans-Health Conference in Philly! For now, we’ll just like all their photos on Instagram. You can too! Follow them @jennacarlo and @giovannimichaelcarlo13!
Blue Montana and Owen Miller just tied the knot last November, and we wish them all the best! Married life seems to suit them well, as evidenced by lots of adorable photos of first holidays together, as well as their incredibly cute pug. Blue is also a board member for Trans Lifeline, an organization dedicated to improving the lives of transgender people. You can follow this #powercouple on Facebook, Blue Montana and Owen Miller.
4. Miracle and Christopher
“He’s my other half, he’s my what you would call a “soulmate”, he’s my best friend and he’s the man that drives me so insane I just wanna smash my head into a revolving door. But most of all, this fucker is mine. ❤️” -Miracle
Miracle and Christopher have been together since 2014, and they describe themselves as a “self made family with our little spawn.” With their gages and dyed hair, how could you not fall in love with this hot, alternative #powercouple and their shared Instagram account, @s4tansloth?
5. Michelle Austin and Dicky Johnson
“I met the man who changed my life. We may not have the ideal relationship that people think is perfect, but it works for us. We met working on a porn set, so we are far from what society thinks is perfect. What matters is we love each other!” -Michelle
Michelle Austin and Dicky Johnson are revolutionizing the trans male porn world with their site FTM.XXX. Their full-length documentary style porn “50 Shades of a Tranny” is the first film of its kind, in that it looks into the love, sexuality, and kink between two real life FTM-MTF lovers. You never know what this #powercouple might be up to next, but you can try to keep up by following Michelle on Twitter, Tumblr or Instagram and Dicky on Twitter, or Tumblr.
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