Local libraries are doing a decent job of housing all types of publications for folks to peruse at their leisure but for an atmosphere of community I’d be hard pressed to find a better collection of literature than at my local LGBTQ community center. The Center here in Las Vegas has a specialized collection of literature for and by LGBTQI+ authors and a few days ago I found myself walking along the shelves looking for something to read.
Several covers later, one caught my eye because of its unusual title: Finding the Boyfriend Within—A Practical Guide for Tapping into Your Own Source of Love, Happiness, and Respect by Brad Gooch. Written in the late 1990s, the book served as an answer to gay cis men’s seemingly restless and unsatisfying search for the perfect boyfriend. Using the age-old advice that loving another requires loving oneself first, Gooch paints a detailed picture of what self-care looks like and how it thinks, as well as the tools to give you a better life of your own creation.
I can relate directly to this book, being gay myself, but his advice and perspective is universal. Just insert “girlfriend” or some other title in its place and you’ll see what I mean. Despite how hokey this title may seem to those who aren’t as in touch with their emotions, Finding the Boyfriend Within has plenty of insights that are worth reflecting on no matter who you are and whether you decide to use his many awareness exercises. Continue reading “You Are Not Who You Date: Self-Reliance and the Single Life” »
Tygh was a natural pick for our cover model for the DILF issue. In fact, he’s the reason the whole issue exists. We picked him before we picked the topic! Magazines may come and go–some before they even begin–but Tygh will long stand as role model and trans father figure for many FTMs. He is always putting out new videos, photos, and blogs (for our site now, too!)–he’s his own media institution, himself! When he signed at our table at the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference, tons of guys were coming up to meet him! But transitioning later in life has also come with a toll: a harsh rejection by his former social network. Read more about his transition from motherhood to fatherhood in our second issue!
Giovanni has two daughters, and he opens up about how transitioning has changed their relationships publicly and privately. He humbly reminds us not to underestimate how open children can be to a parent’s transition–e.g. they are not losing a mother, they are gaining a happier father. Check out his interview and pictures with his family in our DILF issue.
Mykel is Superman to his daughter, and that’s why he’s on it “24/7/365.” And she is, obviously, his queen: “It’s her world. I’m just living in it.” Read the advice he’s got for guys with kids who are considering transitioning in Issue 2.
Derek transitioned about three years after giving birth to his son. And it only took his son about 20 minutes to start calling him Daddy. Find out how Derek has made his son part of his journey in our latest issue!
Lucky you, we’ve got a bonus DILF for the blog only, FTM porn star, Matty Boi. Not only is he a sexy he’s rt throb, he’s also a daddy. And he just might be that other kind of Daddy too, but you’d have to check out his YouTube video with Ryan Cassata on BDSM to find out for sure! But we do know his favorite part of being a father:
“Do I really have to pick one?! That list is endless.
I absolutely love watching her express herself as her own person. Seeing her find passion in things and ALWAYS blowing me away with her talents and intelligence is an irreplaceable experience. (She is an incredible writer, watch out world!) Also, it’s amazing to look at your kid doing simple or huge things like school projects, moving up a grade, falling in love for the first time, or telling you about their plans for the future and go, ‘Holy shit, I helped that person become their own person.’ And let me tell you, she is an awesome person. I’m honored that I’ve been able to be a part of her life. She’s my heart and soul. I guess ultimately, she is my favorite part of being a dad. My favorite part is that I’m her dad.”